4/21/09

happy birthday catherine!



Dear Catherine,

Happy Birthday! It's such a big deal to turn 18. I'm sure many people reading this can remember that day. I think this list bears repeating but for you I want to add a couple of extra rules...

Kiddo, It's okay to have fun, to stretch the rules... especially if you want to be a filmmaker. You gotta stretch out, explore, try new things, don't get wound up about the stupid stuff that you CANNOT change. Sometimes you are going to need to step outside of yourself, unclench (yes, I did say unclench... no one likes someone who sucks the fun out of room) and let go. The worst that anybody can do to you is never as bad as you think. (I qualify that with unless you fall in with a drug cartel and murder someone and then betray the drug cartel boss to the FBI then you are in a world of serious pain but if that happens with you, I'll be surprised.) After Northwestern or Cal or UCLA (whatever you choose Ms. Smartypants), the stress, bills, jobs, family and obligations will come fairly quickly and you don't want to wake up at forty wondering where your life went. It's not that it will be wasted per se but fun will be harder to come by because well... see the above sentence.

Enjoy your life, stop stressing over it. The stress will come soon enough.

With much love,

Krysta

1. Always forward, never retreat!
2. Never get into a car with a stranger, you go out fighting.
3. Never take pictures or video of you naked or having sex (unless you're a porn star). It will always get out into the real world, when you least expect it.
4. Never yell 'Help!' Always yell 'Fire!'
5. Trust your instincts, they are always correct.
6. The world is yours for the taking but it takes hard work.
7. Never date a man who you wouldn't be proud to call his son yours.
8. Always question everything.
9. It's always harder to do the right thing.
10. It's also harder to be kind, caring, patient, and generous.
11. Do the hard stuff. See rules 9&10.
12. Manners are the moisturizer of life.
13. If it smells like fish, then it's not good.
14. If somebody doesn't love you for who you are, then they are not worthy of your time or your heart.
15. There is nothing wrong for wanting to be a better person.
16. Never stop wanting to learn because the day that happens you are dead as a human being.

and 2 to grow on....

17. Don't over analyze everything. 95% of the time when you think people have a problem with you, it's actually because they have a problem with themselves or preoccupied with other things that have nothing to do with you. When you hear hoof beats think horses not zebras.

18. And always ask yourself this in times of stress...

If you died right now, would what ever is stressing you out at this moment actually be a problem?

Chances are no... so react accordingly.

next up.... cheesecake part deux.

15 comments:

Emma said...

Good advice. Happy birthday Catherine!

melissa said...

Oh dear. Krysta, you're the best. And Catherine, if you're listening, happy birthday!, and pay attention to this. You too Katie. Krysta just summed up a lot of life lessons from our 20s, hardcore.

May your future be as bright as she sees it. Much love~

Julia said...

Great advice! How lucky for Catherine to have you supporting her!

Snooty Primadona said...

Amen! Krysta, that list totally rocks but you forgot to add always wear clean underwear in case you're in a wreck, lol. You must be an awesome Mom.

Oh and one more... Guys will tell you anything to get in your pants. So, don't let them in unless you're sure about their affections.

Happy Birthday Catherine! My daughter survived me and you will survive your Mom. Then you become best friends. ;-)

SaintTigerlily said...

Happy Birthday Catherine! And, great advice Krysta.

If I could, I would add (something I tell my sister and cousins): Have AS MUCH FUN as you can while always staying AS SAFE as you can...you can apply that one to almost anything...I found, that after I got out of my early twenties/late teens I reacted with HORROR to how vulnerable I had been most of the time.

But some things you can't teach right? *sigh*

Mayberry Magpie said...

Oh, to have had a woman in my life at age 18 with such good advice. Relish Krysta, Catherine. She knows of what she speaks.

What I wish someone would have told me? Joy is homemade. You can't buy it and, while you can wait on someone or some thing to bring it to you, doing so offers nothing but disappointment.

Asthmagirl said...

Some of the best advice ever posted, Krysta! You should have that bronzed!

Thanks!

GiGi said...

Great letter. I have one prepared for my daughter, she's only turning 2 though - this Friday. I cannot imagine what she will be like 16 years from now!!

Lisa@The Cutting Edge of Ordinary said...

Happy Belated Catherine! Yeah I'm late to the party. Soak in what your Mama said...she's a wise woman.

Laufa said...

Wow, I think that advice could work for any age. Just change the 40 to 20 yrs after the persons age.
Happy Birthday young Lady!

tamilyn said...

Wise words of wisdom. Happy Birthday!

noble pig said...

Awesome words about life and all so dang true. Looking back we want to change so many things. Wouldn't it be nice to grow up with the wisdom!

Happy Birthday!

Sweet Bird said...

Aww...18! I remember 18! Considering that I'm probably one of the youngest food bloggers out there, I suppose it's not too surprising.

It's a big one, a huge transition from adolescent to adult. Good luck on your journey!

White on Rice Couple said...

Happy B-Day Katie! Listen to your mom, she knows her #*!@ and a lot more, too! ;) Except the fish smell=bad thing. Nuoc mam (fish sauce) is pure magic. We have to get you guys down here so we can initiate you on the joys of fish sauce. Love you all. Todd.

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