7/29/08

A Third Person Fairy Tale

This is not your usual Disney fairy tale...

Once upon a time, there was a fair young lass. She was a tomboy, stubborn (to the point of orneriness), sarcastic (it could be ugly), fiercely independent (it drove people crazy, especially her biological father who tried to beat it out of her) and very passionate (about books, food, anything) at 19-20 years of age it made her standout in not a good way. She also never really dreamed of getting married. It wasn't her thing. Big fluffy dresses, nails, perfectly groomed hair... she just couldn't see herself doing any of this. This has not changed even as she's becoming older. She is dreading the day her beautiful daughters come to her and say they want to get married. She's going to tell them to elope and spend the money that you would on the wedding on a fabulous vacation. It's the marriage, not the wedding, that counts. Yeah, that fair lass is going to win Mother of the Year.

Okay, back to the story... The fair lass had turned twenty and had just broken up with a not so charming prince or if you will a... my baby's daddy (god, do I hate that term but those three words can sum up a whole situation quite succinctly.) After the not-so-charming prince dumped our fair lass, her mother asked, 'When are you going to bring home an older prince. Someone more mature.' Our lass pondered that question but it didn't take long for an answer.

She was working at a place that can make many dreams come true, no, not Disneyland, silly. The place that all the princes took as a place to practice their archery skills because there is a big red bulls eye on the front of the building. Target. This Target, in a far off land called Lodi, hadn't even opened the store yet. Many people came from near and far to help get this particular Target opened. While getting this Target store opened, she met this guy. He was tall, very imposing, and her boss. They really didn't have much contact but he always made it a point to say hi. Our fair lass liked this guy, as crazy as this sounds, she dreamed about this guy before she had even met him. Which was crazy because he had transferred from a North Dakota store but later found out he was originally from Stockton. He seemed nice and very smart but he was older than her by 12 years.

'There's just no way he would be interested in me, someone not even legal to drink.' the fair lass thought, 'and anyways there are so many women flirting with him.' One thing to know about this girl is that she is actually very shy almost to the point of painfully shy but what's stranger yet, can and will flirt with any living thing... it's a conundrum for the ages. She didn't know how to approach her boss so she didn't do anything.

Then her not-so-charming boyfriend broke up with her in a not-so-charming way and because she didn't know any better she went to work that night! I never said our fair lass was smart.

When our girl went to work. The boss saw that she looked like hell and asked her what was wrong. Of course, the fair lass started bawling like a little baby and choked out some words about being dumped and the boss said something like, 'Well, if I was with you, I would always take care of you.' While the words didn't sink in that day they did later on.

Today, thirteen years ago, I actually listened to my mom and brought home someone older than me and married him. Yes, he's 45 and I'm 34.

He loves me for who I am and takes care of me whether I need it or not. He understands I am a prickly pain in the ass who still is fiercely independent and hates any authority. It doesn't bother him or insult his manhood. He laughs at all my jokes and useless facts. He calls from work just to hear my voice. He plays bad cop to my good cop, except when buying cars then the roles suddenly reverse! He loves me more than I can ever love him.

He also has some bad points and he can drive me absolutely crazy but you know what...

I'm still in love with him.

24 comments:

ntsc said...

I eloped with my first wife. Her mother responded by sending out formal elopment announcements in Wedding Gothic!

Neen said...

Happy Anniversary! Do's parents eloped.. and he is ten years older, AND they met when he was her Professor in college! My parents "eloped" -- got married as Peace Corps in Ivory Coast ("Hey Mom, look what I brought back from Africa! A Husband!"). Both sets of parents are happily married to this day. Needless to say, poofy dresses and immaculate nails aren't in our gene pool.

noble pig said...

I love that story! Older men are the way to go...I mean seriously...at twenty what are you going to do with a twenty year old guy? Go to McDonald's?

I happy for your happy-ending.

chefectomy said...

That is such a lovely story...now, what was served at the wedding dinner?

BTW - Noble Pig...I married an older woman and we have never eaten at McDonalds...except in Paris.

Undomestic Diva said...

Awww... congrats!

Mayberry Magpie said...

What a moving tribute. And I adore non-traditional love stories.

Congratulations on 13 years!

Rayrena said...

What a sweet post :) So glad you have someone that you're still in love with.

I guess we did it wrong; we eloped, then had a wedding. But we had a very small wedding and paid for it ourselves. Almost 20 years together, married for 12.

Congratulations on your anniversary!

melissa said...

14 years... just like me. :) Funny.

K, I so feel what you are expressing here. And I am so glad you love him like you do and, even more, that he loves you like he does.

I always thought I would marry someone older, I really did. And then I happened to meet someone my same age who fit. Go figure.

Congratulations. A good love like that is immeasurable. Awesome.

MrOrph said...

What an extremely enjoyable read. Congratulations!

Krysta, you write so well!

I wish you guys many more years of love. I can definitely feel where you're coming from.

Grace said...

so what i'm hearing you say is that there's still hope for me. hallelujah. :)

great story, krysta. thanks for sharing your fairy tale.

Mental P Mama said...

Happy Anniversary! What a wonderful story...and you deserve every ounce of happiness!

Kristin said...

Wuv, twue wuv . . . happy anniversary! And lucky number 13, too. Cool.

Cheryl said...

What a sweet story, I love it! Congratulations on a happy ending.

Familia said...

Happy Anniversary!

melissa said...

14 years... just like me. :) Funny.

I just realized I misread that - I was thinking age 20 to 34, together for 14... ergh. Happy Anniversary! (yesterday)

Lisa said...

What a great post. I love your story and how you told it. Congratulations and Happy Anniversary!

Psychgrad said...

Happy Anniversary! I want to hear more about what happened between the 'Well, if I was with you, I would always take care of you' and the "I do".

MaryBeth said...

Happy endings, there is nothing better. Happy Anniversary!

She who said...

I love Fairy Tales and yours is great. Major Congrats and many more.

Neen said...

Unrelated to above -- Hey Krysta, you kid about the indoor grilling, but I'm convinced that that whole incident, and the blog post, and the ongoing banter between you and Do about it, was the main reason my folks decided to get Do a weber for his bday! I mean, you know, not that they wanted him to burn down the house that their daughter lived in or anything...
So, hey, Krysta, thanks for the Weber grill! :)

Sarah said...

I just love happy endings! Congratulations on your anniversary! :)

mindy said...

yay! Happy anniversary. I've just been married 9 months, and we're trying to buy a house: He's driving me nuts! Still, I married the sweet guy that was everyone's friend until later when he got a haircut and I realized he was kinda hot, too!

Great story, Krysta. Thanks for sharing.

white on rice couple said...

Awwwww!! My man laughs at my jokes too, and he really thinks I'm funny. Mine is a keeper and so is yours! Happy day to you both!

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